Registered Charity No. 1004242
Support and Counselling
for the Bereaved
Sutton Bereavement Service offers help to bereaved people
regardless of race, colour, nationality, religion, age, gender,
sexual orientation or physical disability
Bereavement is something which most of us experience during our lives and
which affects us in different ways. Grieving is painful and may give rise
to unexpected feelings.
Shock is usually the first reaction and can last a few minutes, hours
or even days. If the death has been sudden or unexpected this shock can
be intense. A sense of numbness often follows shock and what has happened
may seem unreal or dreamlike. This is quite normal.
In your sadness you may feel despair and depression; you might
think there is no point in going on, or that no-one else could possibly
understand what you are going through. You may become confused and even
think you are 'going mad'. You may experience feelings of panic, self-pity
and anger. Your anger could be with others, or even with the person who
has died. You could feel guilty, especially about the way you are feeling.
These are all natural responses to your loss and can be very exhausting.
Sometimes it seems as if people are avoiding you. Sadly this does happen.
It is probably due to their embarrassment as they may not know what to
say. It is tempting to try and hide your emotions from others and put on
'a brave face', especially for family and friends. However, it can help
to let people know how you are feeling and that you would welcome their
Adjusting to the loss is hard. You may find yourself imagining you have
seen or heard the dead person. You may even find yourself trying to deny
the death. It can be tempting to quickly dispose of possessions or even
move home so that you cannot be reminded of your loss. Experience has shown
this is not always wise and important decisions like these are best given
time and thought.
As the pain eases you may discover that you are beginning to remember
without becoming too distressed. You might be able to renew old interests,
or even take up new pursuits. It might seem disloyal, but the past will
always be part of you and enjoying yourself will not alter that.
Each person mourns in his or her own way. Some find it helpful to talk
with someone who is outside the family or social circle. A volunteer bereavement
counsellor can offer emotional support/counselling following a bereavement.
This may be within a few weeks, months, or even years of the death. The
deceased may be a friend, spouse, relative, colleague or partner of any
Sutton Bereavement Service has a team of trained volunteer bereavement
counsellors. The counselling takes place at our counselling centre or,
in some circumstances, in the home. The focus of the counselling is to
allow people to share their feelings in a confidential setting. All Sutton
Bereavement Service volunteer counsellors receive on-going training, support
Counselling sessions are for no longer than one hour on a weekly basis.
The total number of sessions varies from person to person. Counselling
is not for ever; like mourning, it will eventually come to an end.
If you would like further details about our Service, please telephone
the Director. The office is not open on a full-time basis and you may hear
an Ansaphone message. Please do leave your name and telephone number, and
your call will be returned as soon as possible. Telephone: 020 8643 9299.
The service offers counselling free of charge. However, it costs approximately
£20 to provide one bereavement counselling session. If you are able
to make a contribution towards this cost, please send your donation to
the following address. Cheques should be made payable to 'Sutton Bereavement
The Administrative Officer
Sutton Bereavement Service
1st Floor, 'B' Block
All donations will be acknowledged
Sutton Bereavement Service would like
to thank the following sponsors:
*The London Borough of Sutton
*National Lottteries Charity Board
*The Royal Marsden Hospital
*The St Helier NHS Trust
We are also grateful for the many other
donations from local businesses, organisations and from clients.
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